Kelly and Carly admit, they’re a bit scared about this episode. Mainly because it involves them talking about things they think are pretty non-negotiable (vaccination, keeping your maiden name when married, organ donation). And they prefer people to not hate them.
But, they have faith in the Straight and Curly community to take everything they say in the spirit intended. Along the way, they share their best tips for expressing strong views about things, but without being a total dick about it.
- Elizabeth Kolbert – Why facts don’t change our minds
- Clementine Ford – Giving up your name after marriage is a choice that’s worth questioning
Despite their best efforts to show people it’s not the case, some people seem to think Kelly and Carly swan through life without a care in the world. Most likely because neither of them like discussing their problems in the moment – they prefer to talk about the things they’ve fully processed and worked through.
In today’s episode, the first before Straight and Curly takes a break for three weeks, the girls get vulnerable and share about the things that are bothering them right now:
- Carly’s worried about the environment and trying to reduce the amount of waste she produces … but finds it hard not to slip into becoming really vigilante about it all.
- Kelly’s given up her beloved Flying Solo Editor role and discusses why it’s a really sensible thing to do … but still hurts.
- Carly’s very frustrated that having an impeccable diet and working out really hard six days a week for an extended period of time yielded very little change on the scales. She’s worried what this means for her future self.
- Kelly’s kids are currently on school holidays and she’s struggling to find the balance between getting all her work done – and giving them a fun school holiday experience.
- Carly and Kelly are both frustrated by their propensity for taking on too much!
Kelly and Carly have both travelled quite extensively within Australia and overseas. In this episode they discuss:
- Where they’ve been
- Where they’re dying to go
- Where they’re dying to go back to
- Travel hacks
- Money saving tips for travel
- How to manage the need for planning with the need for living in the moment when on holiday/travelling
Kelly asked her blog readers what topics they wanted her to write about. Several of the topics were super-interesting, but weren’t things she could write a full post on. She also wanted to get Carly’s view on a few of them. So Kelly and Carly tackle those questions together in this episode including:
- How do you get people to think for themselves?
- How do you talk about money ‘well’?
- How to deal with the ‘it never rains, but it pours’ woes of being a freelancer.
- How to know when to give up on something you’re ‘crap’ at, and when to keep persisting.
- How to deal with the nightly news (which seems to be all bad news).
- How to deal with imposter syndrome.
Decision fatigue refers to the deteriorating quality of decisions made by an individual after a long session of decision making. It is now understood as one of the causes of irrational trade-offs in decision making.
Decision fatigue explains why we’re able to eat well in the morning, but make poor food choices at night. It explains why we’ll put a good amount of thought into an important decision in the morning, but have no dramas making a snap decision about the same thing later in the day. In short, the more decisions we make over the course of a day – the less able we are to make good decisions by the end of that day because every decision we have to make saps our energy in some way.
In this episode, Carly and Kelly discuss ways to reduce the amount of decision fatigue in your life to set you up for making better decisions at any time of the day, not just the morning!
Josie has a conundrum – after spending most of her life striving relentlessly, she’s come to a place where she’s … satisfied. And it’s kind of freaking her out. Josie asked:
- Do you think it’s important to have goals in life and to strive, or is it just as valid to meander along?
- Do you think strivers can often have a negative undercurrent to their need to achieve? Or is this not that common?
- How do you recognise when your goal setting is coming from a negative place?
- And, any tips on how I can find motivation again to try and strive for a new goal that’s truly important to me and not about what other people think?
As dedicated strivers themselves, answering the above questions also provided Kelly and Carly with the opportunity for some self-reflection.
This was a fun episode!
One of their listeners asked Kelly and Carly for recommendations on:
- Foods to try
- Places to visit
- People they find interesting
It provided an interesting opportunity for them to show just how different they are!
Listener Saskia asked:
“What do you do when you’ve achieved your goals? How do you deal with the existential dread of “this is the rest of my life”? How do you set new goals after doing the goals that you’ve strived to reach? What comes after schooling, babies, marriage, house, whatever you’ve pursued. What’s the answer to “now what??””
Whew, big topic! One that resonated quite deeply with those in the Straight and Curly Facebook group. While Kelly regularly experiences existential crises, Carly is far too sensible for those! So this episode is worth a listen for the different ways they come at this tricky subject.
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This is a funny episode because neither girls are particularly messy types. That said, Kelly is anally tidy and cannot see the positives of any kind of messiness. So Carly goes in to bat for team ‘Messy’.
While Kelly tried to convert listeners to the idea that ‘outer order contributes to inner calm’, Carly points out the difference between messy and dirty, and shares some research the indicates messy people are more creative.
All in all, it’s an entertaining episode, if only to hear Kelly having a nervous breakdown at something she read in Sarah Wilson’s new book ‘First, we make the beast beautiful’.
Carly is a committed tracker, Kelly hates them because she hates things holding her to account (she feels she should be able to hold herself to account). But there is no denying it, if you have fitness or diet goals, trackers are incredibly useful.
So, what are the pros and cons of fitness tracking?
And what are some of the girls’ favourite tools in that regard?
They share that and more in today’s episode.